IBTISAM & I: BREAST CANCER SURVIVORS TRANSCEND CONFLICT
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Ruth and Ibtisam

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Member of Triage Cancer's Speakers Bureau

WHERE I'VE SHARED MY MESSAGE:

  • ​US STATE DEPARTMENT 
  • NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY
    Evanston, Illinois
  • COMBINED JEWISH PHILANTHROPHIES (CJP)
    Boston, Massachusetts
  • OAK PARK TEMPLE
    Oak Park, Illinois
  • PILGRIM CONGREGATIONAL CHURCH
    Oak Park, Illinois
  • TEMPLE ISRAEL
    West Bloomfield, Michigan
  • DETROIT INTERFAITH OUTREACH NETWORK
    Detroit, Michigan
  • THE ANGLICAN INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL
    Jerusalem, Israel
  • TICHON RAMAH YERUSHALAYIM (TRY) / USY HIGH
    Jerusalem, Israel
  • YALA ACADEMY
  • YOUNG JUDEA YEAR COURSE IN ISRAEL
  • YALA YOUNG LEADERS 
  • PERES CENTER FOR PEACE
  • BETHEL UNITED METHODIST CHURCH
    Flint, MI
  • SUSAN G. KOMEN 
    RACE FOR THE CURE, HOUSTON AFFILIATE

    Houston, TX 
  • SUSAN G. KOMEN
    MID-MICHIGAN AFFILIATE

    East Lansing, Michigan
  • RAMAH SEMINAR ISRAEL
    Jerusalem, ISRAEL 
  • FLINT JEWISH FEDERATION
    Flint, MI 
  • BAYOU CITY 
    BREAKFAST CLUB

    Houston, TX 
  • BAY CITY HILLEL
    San Francisco, CA
  • UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS MEDICAL BRANCH AT GALVESTON
    Galveston, TX
  • MUSLIM MEDICAL ASSOCIATION
    UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS MEDICAL BRANCH AT GALVESTON

    Galveston, TX
  • BILL KERLEY'S ORDINARY LIFE CLASS
    ST. PAUL'S UNITED METHODIST CHURCH

    Houston, TX
  • EMERY-WIENER COMMUNITY DAY SCHOOL
    Houston, TX 
  • CONGREGATION KEHILLAT ISRAEL
    East Lansing, MI
  • GREATER LANSING JEWISH WELFARE FEDERATION
    Lansing, MI 
  • UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST CHURCH
    East Lansing, MI 
  • YOUNG ISRAEL OF SOUTHFIELD
    Southfield, MI 
  • BREAST HEALTH COLLABORATIVE OF TEXAS
    Houston, TX
  • HOUSTON JEWISH FEDERATION
    Houston, TX 
  • MUSLIM MENTAL HEALTH CONFERENCE
    Dearborn, MI
  • JEWSTON TEXAS, HOUSTON HILLEL
    Houston, TX 
  • CONGREGATION SHAAREY ZEDEK 
    East Lansing, MI
  • LANSING CHAPTER OF HADASSAH
    Lansing, MI
  • DOWNTOWN SYNAGOGUE
    Detroit, Michigan
  • JERUSALEM ROTARY CLUB
    Jerusalem, Israel
  • HOUSTON CONGREGATION FOR REFORM JUDAISM
    Houston, Texas
  • BEREN ACADEMY
    Houston, Texas
  • HOPE AND HEALING CENTER
    ST MARTIN'S EPISCOPAL CHURCH

    Houston, Texas
  • THE JERUSALEM ACADEMY OF MUSIC AND DANCE
    Jerusalem, Israel
  • STUYVESANT HIGH SCHOOL
    New York, NY
  • THE RAMAZ SCHOOL
    New York, NY
  • SAR ACADEMY
    Riverdale, NY
  • CSAIR (CONSERVATIVE SYNAGOGUE ADATH ISRAEL OF RIVERDALE)
    Bronx, NY
  • HIR (HEBREW INSTITUTE OF RIVERDALE) THE BAYIT
    Riverdale, NY
  • MUSLIM & JEWISH WOMEN'S ANNUAL LEADERSHIP CONFERENCE, SISTERHOOD OF SALAAM - SHALOM, PRINCETON UNIVERSITY
    Princeton, NJ
  • STATE DEPARTMENT, BUREAU OF EDUCATIONAL AND CULTURAL AFFAIRS
    Washington DC
  • PARLOR MEETING
    Harrison, New York
  • PARLOR MEETING
    Brooklyn, NY
  • THE PARDES INSTITUTE OF JEWISH STUDIES
    Jerusalem, Israel
  • SOLOMON SCHECHTER SCHOOL OF WESTCHESTER
    visiting Jerusalem, Israel
  • CJP WOMEN'S PHILANTROPHY MISSON
    Jerusalem, Israel
  • CONGREGATION BRITH SHALOM
    Bellaire, Texas
  • CRANBROOK AND KINGSWOOD UPPER SCHOOL
    Bloomfield Hills, Michigan
  • JEWISH FAMILY SERVICE
    West Bloomfield, Michigan
  • TEMPLE BETH ABRAHAM
    Oakland, California
  • ISRAEL BONDS
    Houston, Texas
  • THE LEO BAECK SCHOOL
    Toronto, Canada​
  • ST MARY'S ACADEMY
    Englewood, Colorado
  • JEWISH CULTURAL CENTER
    Chattanooga, TN
  • LIMMUD MICHIGAN
  • CHARLES E. SMITH JEWISH DAY SCHOOL
    Rockville, MD
  • CONGREGATION BETH ISRAEL
    Metairie, LA
  • LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER
    Detroit, MI
  • YaLa ACADEMY CITIZEN JOURNALISM PROGRAM
  • BOOK LAUNCH FOR GWEN ACKERMAN'S GODDESS OF BATTLE
    Jerusalem, Israel
  • SHIRA HADASHA
    Jerusalem, Israel
  • Midreshet Amit
     Jerusalem, Israel
  • AACI (Americans and Canadians in Israel)
    Maaleh Hahamisha
American-Israeli writer/activist shares how an unexpected close friendship with a Palestinian emerged out of breast cancer. Galvanized to help others, Ruth started lobbying in the Israeli Knesset to promote women's health. Ruth's story has been covered by the BBC, The Atlantic, & Alhurra TV. Her uplifting message: you can turn something bad into something good.

PROGRAMS

  1. TRANSFORMING DARKNESS INTO LIGHT:
    BREAST CANCER SURVIVORS TRANSCEND THE ISRAELI-PALESTINIAN CONFLICT
    Diagnosed with breast cancer while nursing her baby, Ruth feared that she would die. Lumpectomy scars still healing, she joined an Israeli-Palestinian breast cancer support group, hoping to find something "good" in cancer. She found wonderful: Ibtisam Erekat, a Muslim Palestinian woman whom she calls kin. Ruth models how we can conquer the lines that divide us & transform darkness into light.

  2. HOW WE CAN TRANSFORM OURSELVES:
    MY JOURNEY FROM BREAST CANCER TO KNESSET LOBBYIST FOR WOMEN’S HEALTH
    Certain that longevity was her birthright, Ruth was stunned to be diagnosed with breast cancer at 42. After treatment, she was determined to effect change. Galvanized to help others, Ruth began lobbying at the Knesset and at municipalities to promote health & equal access to care for Israeli & Palestinians women, and women with disabilities. Her message: empowered, we can all transform ourselves.

ENDORSEMENTS

Ruth Ebenstein delivers a very powerful and inspiring message that describes her passage from breast cancer survivor to being a passionate leader promoting intercultural understanding between Israeli and Palestinian women.  When I was the American Ambassador in Bosnia, Ruth was awesome during her visit to Sarajevo with Israeli and Palestinian breast cancer survivors.  Her at times sobering and often light-hearted style touched many hearts and connected positively across cultural divides.  Ruth’s core message was inspirational for a country that still suffers from inter-ethnic tensions.  Ruth is a brave and committed leader who is building intercultural bridges that will, step-by-step, be a force for a positive, peaceful future.  Thank you, Ruth!
 
— Ambassador (ret) Patrick Moon
Ruth Ebenstein knocked the ball out of the park when she spoke to our audience, mostly professional people with very high expectations. I've had only positive remarks: “Very moving.” “Great speaker.” “What a wonderful peace initiative.” I highly recommend Ruth to any group interested in hearing about/seeing a demonstration of how one person can make a positive difference in our conflicted world.

— Dr. Bill Kerley
Founder and Director
Ordinary Life, St. Paul's United Methodist Church, Houston, TX
Ruth's story brings a unique perspective to a global challenge: surviving breast cancer. Just as the disease knows no boundaries of race, ethnicity, politics or geography, her story transcends all of these barriers, bringing two people together to empower & gather strength from each other. She brought our audience back to a human focus, reminding us why we do what we do to support breast health.

— Kirk White
Co-chair of 10th Annual Breast Health Summit, Breast Health Collaborative of Texas, Houston, TX
Someone once said about Beethoven's music, "from the heart it has sprung and to the heart it shall penetrate". I felt the same during Ruth's talk. Disease does not discriminate - we do! Ruth & Ibtisam were able to connect because they knew that they were not enemies; the true enemy lies within. Hope we learn soon enough this lesson of love & friendship before it's too late for humanity to heal!

— Dr. Farha Abbasi
Director, Muslim Mental Health Conference, Unitarian Universalist Church., East Lansing, MI
Ruth Ebenstein demonstrates how storytelling is a means for bringing together people from disparate backgrounds and bridging cultural divides. Her work with YaLa Young Leaders for Change – a program sponsored by the American Consulate General in Jerusalem and the U.S. Embassy in Tel Aviv – has introduced dozens of Palestinian and Israeli young leaders to the techniques of using their personal stories to promote dialogue and bring a message of peace to a wider audience.
 
— Jerome Sherman
Former Public Diplomacy Officer at the American Consulate General in Jerusalem
— Carey Hogg
U.S. State Department’s Regional Alumni Coordinator for the Middle East and North Africa
For 30 years, the men of Bayou City Breakfast Club have been meeting to hear scions of business & politics discuss their area of expertise. It was a wonderful respite to hear how Ruth's story of personal tragedy formed a sisterhood that bridged religious/political tumult. Men listened with rapt admiration...some moved to tears...many proclaiming it the best speaker/story they had heard in years.

— Mark Miller
Former President, Bayou City Breakfast Club, Houston, TX
Ruth was one of the best guest speakers our congregation has ever had. Her story of personal friendship across the divide with Ibtisam Erekat, a Palestinian woman, had us laughing, crying, and on the edge of our seats the entire time. Ruth is an amazing storyteller, and her story is inspiring for breast cancer survivors, those who care about peace, and anyone who has the privilege of hearing her.

— Rabbi Mark Bloom
Temple Beth Abraham, Oakland, California

Ruth Ebenstein, together with Ibtisam Erekat, opened the eyes and hearts of our politically and religiously diverse Orthodox synagogue with their deeply inspiring and emotional presentation.  We were reminded of the humanity of even those with whom we profoundly differ, and of the ties that truly bind us.  While far from a panacea for the Middle East conflict, their story is a spark of hope that there are countless deep connections that can span nearly any divide.  We left the weekend touched, re-energized, and honored to have met and learned from both an American Israeli and a Palestinian who are now a part of our lives.  We would encourage all, but especially other Orthodox synagogues and schools, to welcome them into your communities.
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— ​Rabbi Steven Exler
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Hebrew Institute of Riverdale, The Bayit
Ruth was sensational.  She took at topic that effects every woman, cancer, and brought it to the forefront.  Ruth was a huge success in helping to educate the women at the annual Sisterhood of Salaam Shalom conference about the importance of dialogue and interfaith relationship-buildling.  The entire discussion was brought to life through Ruth's and Ibtisam's narratives.  Ruth was captivating and in between everyone's tears, there was much laughter.  Most importantly, there was hope!

— Sheryl Olitzky, Founder and Executive Director
Sisterhood of Salaam Shalom, Princeton University, Princeton, NJ
At Ramaz it’s common for us to hear from leaders from around the world, and sometimes we forget that it’s regular people who really make a difference. What struck me most about Ruth’s powerful words was that she didn’t come to push any political agenda. She was a real person with real experiences, encouraging us to try to understand all sides of the conversation before forming an opinion. It’s unfortunate that sometimes we feel like people living just one mile away are from a totally different world. Ruth’s message is a reminder that there is probably someone on the other side that’s exactly like you. We have plenty of politicians, but the world could really use more people like Ruth reminding us to have a heart.


— Daniel Cahn, Ramaz High School Class of '17
​National Cabinet Member, Junior State of America
Ruth Ebenstein’s presentation and presence at our Hope and Healing Center was a tremendous gift to our Church, and to the Houston Community!  She brings a lighthearted and yet courageous message of hope and compassion that transcends  the things that seem to divide members of the human family.  She brings not just words of joy…she IS a joy!
 
​— Rev. Dr. Russ Levenson, Jr. 
Rector, St. Martin's Episcopal, Houston, Texas
I had the privilege of hearing Ruth Ebenstein speak twice—the first time, during a summer journalism program at Northwestern University, and the second, on a two-month trip to Israel with my senior class. These two audiences, consisting of people with vastly different religious and political beliefs, both emerged from Ruth’s presentation with a reminder of how similar we all are to each other and with the confidence that no challenge is too great to overcome. Ruth’s story of finding a sister in Ibtisam, a Palestinian woman, who, at the time, was also battling breast cancer, challenges even the most stubborn skeptics to look beyond artificial divides and seek out the truth for themselves.

​— Sarah Fortinsky, Larchmont, New York
heard a presentation at Northwestern University & with her classmates from Solomon Schechter of Westchester while visiting Jerusalem
Ruth shared an uplifting perspective on one of the great conflicts of our time. Her tallk was part of a week in which American teens explored different sides & shades of Jerusalem; many cited her presentation as the most meaningful experience of them all. She makes her audience feel like part of something greater. A wonderful storyteller & great lecturer! I'd recommend Ruth to any crowd, any age.

— Tal Goshen-Gottstein
Activities Coordinator, Ramah Israel Seminar, Jerusalem, Israel
Ruth Ebenstein's story of facing a serious challenge with courage was a great blessing to our congregation. It touched not only cancer survivors and their families, but those dealing with inner prejudices that keep them from reaching out to others. Ruth is an inspiration - bright, humorous and engaging. I highly recommend her to any audience seeking a word of ecumenical inspiration!

— Faith Green Timmons
Revered, Bethel United Methodist Church, Flint, Michigan
Ruth spoke to a group of Muslims, Christians and Jews, imparting a message we all embraced: how shared human experiences can overcome the barriers to becoming friends & partners. We needed this hopeful message during the sorrowful time of the Gaza War. Ruth's personal story captivates. We all cried & felt connected to her, and to her Palestinian “sister,” Ibtisam. Don't hesitate. Book her!

— David Wiener
President, Congregation Kehillat Yisrael, Unitarian Universalist Church , Lansing, MI
Ruth was so well received at the conference that we're bringing her back. Her story compels - it's breast cancer survivorship & sisterhood she forged with Ibtisam, whom she met at a Komen-sponsored Israeli-Palestinian breast cancer support group. They're a fabulous, heart-warming example of deep friendship and mutual respect, despite the odds. Ruth's magnetism, humor and warmth shine throughout.

— Anne Meyn
Board President, Susan G. Komen, Houston Affiliate
Breast Health Collaborative of Texas Annual Summit, Houston, TX
Ruth’s friendship with Ibtisam underscores that no matter our differences & the seeming barriers on the surface, friendship & love are possible. In a world focused on extremes, this message is oft forgotten. Ruth's riveting talk reminds us, medicine transcends! Every medical professional or anyone interested in the Israeli-Palestinian conflict should listen to and reflect upon her story.

— Farukh Gabriel Ikram
Vice President, UTMB Muslim Medical Association, University of Texas Medical Branch (UTMB) at Galveston, Galveston, TX
Ruth's story is about much more than breast-cancer survivorship. It's about peace, love & boundary-less friendship. Ruth & Ibtisam are today's “Romeo and Juliet” . An Israeli and a Palestinian, sharing pain, joy & survival. Ruth kept our women enthralled. The world should use Ruth and Ibtisam as an example of what love looks like; perhaps the rockets, kidnappings & terror would finally stop.”

— Meredith Segal
Women's Philanthropy Director, Houston Jewish Federation, Houston, TX
Ruth's story is both unique and universal. She brought tears to the eyes of all the YaLa members present during our meeting in Jerusalem. Palestinian, Israelis, Jewish, Muslims, Men, Women, all touched and changed by Ruth's story. She reminded us that we have more in common that we think and that real friendship has no color or no religion. Stories like Ruth and Ibtisam's must be heard. These stories about normal people are the real stories of the Middle East, bringing hope and a certain sense of community to every listener. I will always keep her story with me. 

— Sarah Perle Benazera
Project Manager, YaLa Young Leaders
As I listened to Ruth's story, I found myself seeing life in a totally different way. She made me stop and think. I started reconsidering my priorities, healing my wounds and letting my worries wash away. Ruth's story simply proposes life in a way different than what I had gotten used to in Israel/Palestine. Just as the frightening breast cancer leaves the patient with one ambition,namely, survival, I realized that striving for peace has to be a survival ambition as well.
 
— Hamze Awawde
Project Coordinator, YaLa Palestine
Ruth successfully convinced our group of students that Palestinians are people, just as we are - which many tend to forget. She spoke expertly to a group of teenagers, many of whom had never been exposed to such stories of Jews and Palestinians befriending one another. By sharing her story, Ruth provides a precedent for further Jewish-Palestinian friendships, which I believe fully is the only way towards peace. Her story must be heard, and her example must be followed. 

— Rebecca Krieger
18, of Boston, Young Judaea Year Course
Given the daily news, it is easy to believe that conflict can never be resolved and that no one person can make a difference. Listening to Ruth Ebenstein tell her story is the antidote to despair and hopelessness. Because she proves that one person can.

Speaking at Young Israel of Southfield to one of the largest audiences ever gathered for a Shabbat afternoon talk, Ruth shared her experience in an animated, engaging, humorous and poignant manner. Her courage and determination to not let breast cancer undermine her exuberance for life reminds us that while we may not be able to control a situation, our attitude and mindset can affect the experience. Looking for something good in breast cancer, Ruth joined an Israeli-Palestinian breast cancer support group and develops a special friendship with Ibtisam Erekat, a Muslim Palestinian woman, despite political, geographical and religious differences. The audience was well-rewarded. By example, Ruth encouraged us to find the strengths within ourselves. Her story reminds us that our reactions to any circumstance have ripple effects; we're inspired to choose our reactions wisely.

— Janice Goldfein
Psychotherapist and Synagogue member, Young Israel of Southfield, Southfield, Michigan
Ruth Ebenstein is an amazing storyteller. Hers is a gripping true-life story that takes the listener into the heart of the matter. Her real-life experience as a breast cancer survivor and her deep and abiding friendship with Ibtisam Erekat, a Muslim Palestinian, will transform you. I encourage you to hear for yourself how two women who once assumed they were enemies came to love each other through their shared experience. You will be glad you did.

— Rev. Sally Iberg, Senior Pastor
Pilgrim Congregational Church, 
Oak Park, IL, USA
Ruth Ebenstein clearly connected with students in the Medill School of Journalism's summer high school program. They were engaged in her message and kept her after her lecture, talking and asking questions until we practically had to throw them out. Ruth patiently stayed with them as long as we let her.

— Joe Grimm
Journalism Professor
National High School Institute/Northwestern University
Ruth Ebenstein is a riveting speaker capable of connecting with people of all ages.   Ebenstein’s story is as much about the survival of the human sprit and the salve of true friendship as it is about breast cancer and the Israeli- Palestinian conflict. Ruth and Ibtisam's unlikely friendship is the heart of this story and a real glimmer of hope at dismal moment in the history of this war-torn region.

I want to underscore her ability to talk to teens. Ruth spoke to a group of 14- and 15- year-old confirmation students during Sunday school, a time that is traditionally very difficult to introduce a new speaker.  The students were mesmerized and totally engaged.  They appreciated her warmth and humor and were fascinated by her story.  As a rabbi I have sat through numerous guest speakers with students and this was the only time I did not have to do anything to ensure that the group was "with" the speaker.  

​— Rabbi Laura Sheinkopf
I had the privilege of hosting Ruti and Ibtasam in our house and listening to their powerful message.  Even on short notice, the timeliness of their discussion had over 40 people attend with less than one week’s notice.  The feedback i have received from hosting this program has been amazing.  Nearly every person that attended took the time to thank me for having this discussion in my house.  Hearing a message of peace and hope in these times, by two dynamic and theoretically conflicted women, was truly a gift.  I’d highly recommend them to any group hoping to stimulate conversation and inspiration.

​​— ​Rebecca Lipton Warkol, hosted a parlor meeting in Harrison, New York
Ruth's talk was an amazing and engaging experience for our students and teachers alike. Many were truly inspired by Ruth's passion and commitment to spreading her experience of peace and love across the political divide.  The talk was well received our diverse student body, but most notably by members of the Jewish Cultural Club and Muslim Students Association.  Ruth and Ibtisam were generous with their time afterwards, speaking with students individually about their experience amidst the political tension our students only read about.  This was truly a valuable experience our students will not forget!

​​— ​Eric Wisotsky, history teacher, Stuyvesant High School, New York, New York
Ruth is a natural communicator and a master story teller. She creates blessing from conflict and healing from pain. I highly recommend Ruth as a teacher of Jewish wisdom and an advocate for interfaith dialogue. 

— ​Rabbi Ranon Teller, Congregation Brith Shalom
The fact that two people take such big risks for their friendship really touches me and hits me hard.

— ​Jake Apsey, Cranbrook Kingswood Upper School, Class of 2017
Senior Boys in Holly Arida's Current Middle East Conflicts class
The first thing I thought was interesting was her everlasting bond with Ibtisam.  It's amazing what both of them go through to remain friends.  I also admire her drive to go to Israel in the first place.  But the real admiration I have for her forms when you put together everything she is and everything she has done:

Breast Cancer Survivor
Peace Activist
World Traveler
Kind
Informative
Speaker
Has had friends killed in Israel
Has to send her own children into the army

— Sam Slocum, Cranbrook Kingswood Upper School, Class of 2017
Senior Boys in Holly Arida's Current Middle East Conflicts class
Ruth's story was not only heard by the students, but felt as she told of her experiences and journey.  Her reflection, candidness, and warmth made the presentation not only informative, but engaging as well, and an opportunity that will not be easily forgotten.

—Raquel Cedano, Upper School General Studies Principal, Beren Academy, Houston, Texas
Ruth mesmerized her audience for well over an hour, without speaking notes. She was engaging, energetic and heartfelt in a way that left us all touched. As we grapple with a most difficult topic from long distance, Ruth brings it close to home with her one-on-one personal tale of struggle, relationship and light in difficult times. This is not a presentation to be missed.

—Eric Petersiel, Head of School, The Leo Baeck Day School
Ruth is an inspiration to everyone she meets. Her energy and openness about her health and her relationship with Ibtisam is a true example of compassion in practice. She makes everyone feel like her best friend. She sends her message about the true value of friendship, which transcends religious, political and cultural differences to see the person and value them as they are. Our students adored her and she was the perfect keynote to set the tone for our entire day.

—Deborah Horning, Educator/Diversity Coordinator | St. Mary’s Academy
Hi Ruth! Well, what can I say?! You were spectacular and really moved this community. You are such a strong person. Thank you so much for coming and speaking!

—Eric Bassin, High School Principal, Solomon Schechter School of Westchester, Hartsdale, NY
Ruth's presentation was the best speaking engagement I ever attended!! And the rest of our audience listeners, with their enthusiastic support and interest, would not let Ruth leave for a long time. Next time I hope to be there for both Ruth AND Ibtisam!!

—Dawn Margolin, member, Temple Beth Abraham, Oakland, California
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